What is Motivation Monday?

Motivation Monday is the one day per week that I dedicate simply to getting motivated. Motivation is something that I’ve always struggled with, and I knew when going into this blog that one of my big goals was to be inspirational and motivational for other parents in unconventional family structures. It can be really isolating for us, as most parenting blogs focus around “mom” and “dad,” with a few out there focusing on two moms or two dads. In all my searching, I had yet to find a blog dedicated to a three-mom family.

(For those of you who are new here, no, I am not part of a throuple. My wife and I [“aunties”] co-parent our two children with their biological mother.)

Motivation Monday is a place for me to share those heart-wrenching and heart-warming family stories, the ones that make me so happy that I decided to do this. It’s hard AF to manage a family when you already feel judged by your community, ostracized from the kids’ birth family, and at the end of your rope with the day-to-day routine. Trust me, I know! So if my stories can bring a little bit of light to a dark and emotional experience… I’m happy to share them. And I want to hear yours, too — never be afraid to chime in on one of our posts!

Why should motivation get its own day?

Motivation Monday was actually one of the first theme days I came up with for the blog (after Type A Tuesday, of course!). Dedicating an entire day every week to motivation has been a game-changer. Being able to tell myself that Monday is the day I gather strength for the rest of the week already makes it a little motivational so I’m in the right head space to make great things happen.

What motivates me most in my life?

I’d like to say that I have a long list of things that motivate me. I’d like to, but unfortunately I’ve never been a very good liar. Honestly, the thing that helps me power through every hard “today”? Knowing that there will be an easier “today” eventually. I might not always know when that better day is coming, but looking back it gets easier to see it.

As much as I’d also like to say that I have a life separate from these kids, I’d be remiss if I pretended that they weren’t the biggest features in my life right now. When so much of my schedule revolves around the kids, it’s only natural that the kids themselves would be a huge motivation for me. If I can raise them to be emotionally-responsible and intelligent little human beings, I’ve done the hardest job ever to the best of my ability, and that’s definitely something to look forward to.

Hey guys! I know this blog is just starting out and already I’ve gone on hiatus for way longer than I’ve actually been active.

I’d like to pretend I have a good reason for that. Like, for example, that we accidentally (and without warning) ended up with a third kid for the time being. I’d like to, but that wouldn’t be fair… Seeing as this is a parenting(ish) blog in the first place.

But just because I don’t need to give excuses doesn’t mean that I don’t want to keep you guys updated on what’s going on! So, here’s the fun news since the last time I wrote.

1. Our baby plans are currently on pause.

We actually got all the stuff we need to bring Baby Zombie-Dragon into the world — but life had other plans. We’re not really sure how long the pause will be, but for now, we’re holding off.

2. We started official paperwork for our girls!

For anyone who has never filled out a guardianship petition before, let me tell you — these things are lengthy. It’s most of the way filled out now, but I want to go over it with an attorney just to make sure everything’s in order.

(Also, if any of our readers happens to be an attorney licensed in the state of California and would like to help advise us for free, that would be amazing — if not, we’ll wait until we get a callback from the referral service.)

3. We temporarily have a third child.

As I mentioned in the introduction, we currently have a third child in our care. She’s the younger sister of the two girls we already have, and we don’t expect to have her for too much longer. But, for now, she’s joined our family, and I am happy to report that I’m actually feeling way more ready to be a mom-of-three now.

4. Mama Zombie got a promotion (and raise) at work!

The few of you who know us in real life probably knows that Mama Zombie has been waiting around to be promoted to supervisor. Well, shortly after all this started with our girls, she received the promotion she’s been waiting on. It’s not a huge raise, but the hours are better, and our family is working much more cohesively now that we’ve all adjusted.

5. The Dinosaur has started (occasionally) calling me Mom.

For those of you who have never raised a child that wasn’t your own, it might be hard to understand how big of a thing this is. But for anyone who has fallen in love with a child you didn’t help to conceive, you already know that it’s a magical feeling that, for a brief moment, makes all the pain and heartache seem worth it somehow. Of course, the pain and heartache comes back, especially since the girls aren’t actually ours yet, but… Mama Dragon feels so happy about this.

What’s new in your world? Drop us a comment and let us know! Even though I’m not posting here, I will still read everything that comes through. (We hope that the blog will start to be more active again soon, too.)

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Introduction to “Motivation Mondays”